Having a positive mindset when dealing with Cancer is really important. I know it’s easier said then done, but it can make a huge impact on your Cancer Journey. Positive thinking can help you in many aspects of life and even more so during the stressful time during Cancer Therapy. It’s very easy to get frustrated and depressed about the situation at hand, which can have a negative domino effect and make a bad situation even worse. All this negativity can effect your sleep, your eating, your mood, and more. All these can have a direct impact on your Cancer Treatment. Everything is connected so make sure the positives outweigh the negatives. Make sure the numbers add up in your favor.
Anything is possible.
I still think that anything is possible in this life. No matter what bad news you get, no matter how bad of a month its been, just remember that it can always get better. Tomorrow can be the day it all turns around. Push forward and stay focused no matter what. That is what separates the winners from the rest. Sometimes all you need is that extra tiny bit that otherwise would be missing. Take that extra positive energy and bash Cancer over the head with it. Whether you beat Cancer by an inch or by a mile, it’s still winning. That’s a victory to be proud of no matter how you look at it. Thank you positive thinking!
I am the biggest fan of hope.
I personally was the biggest pusher of positive thinking and hope. Maybe that’s why I never stopped my search for that cancer cure that no one else found yet. I dedicated my whole life to searching for something that maybe someone else missed. At times I would of been happy to maybe just find something that would buy me a tiny bit more time with my mother. In some ways I failed to reach my goal, but in other ways I succeeded. I wouldn’t be able to do half the things I did without positive thinking.
Push the boundaries.
I proved many people wrong, some were doctors. I went further then most people would have. I kept fighting when everyone said to give up. I showed my mother that anything was possible. We both showed what was expected, was now the unexpected. She survived the impossible more then just once. None of that would be possible without positivity and hope. Think positive and use that momentum to push forward and beat Cancer.
Positive thinking is tremendously important but make sure you don’t over do it. Read how hope can be just as dangerous as it is helpful.
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Good, balanced viewpoint about the role of hope and positive thinking without letting it go overboard. I myself have been having great difficulty finding an ideal balance between hope and positivity in regards to my mom’s cancer, on one hand, and a realist mindset, on the other. Moreover, I have found it a great challenge to be positive without slipping into escapist denial or to be realistic without getting tremendously depressed. The ideal is somewhere between but it is hard to find that place that’s in between and stay there. I found this article very moving as you talk about fighting for a bit more time with your mother, and I guess that’s the most any of us can hope for: more time.
Is there an article somewhere on this site where you go into more details about exactly what things you and your mom tried? Also, what is your background and training in, if I may ask? I ask only because I wish I had as much scientific knowledge so that I could apply it when trying to find my way through the chaotic wasteland of conflicting information that is the Internet.
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Hi Daniel,
You are right, finding the balance between the reality of the situation and complete denial can be a back and forth struggle. It can be even more difficult when the people around you project positive or negative thoughts. I remember doctors constantly trying to drill negative information about my mothers prognosis. While I understand they were doing it to avoid denial of the situation, hearing it time after time like a broken record can quickly force you into depression. We knew exactly how bad our position was, but each time we were told, it hurt just as much as the time before that. This is something i wish the medical community would handle better and shows how far we still need to go to fix the system.
On top of that you have egos and individuals with poor social skills (rudeness) at all points of health care that you must deal with on a daily basis. It really does come at you from all angles. All these things will have an impact on how easy or hard it will be for anyone to have a balanced viewpoint while fighting cancer. Getting the right people around you is very important. If you don’t love your doctor, find another one. I learned it’s not worth trying to work with a doctor you don’t see eye to eye with. Great things can happen when you have the right doctor.
In terms of what treatments my mom tried, I don’t have one single article that goes into all of them. However, if my mother did try a treatment and experienced good results, the article would go into that in detail like the paw paw treatment. I have written articles about all treatments she as tried other then some chemotherapies and natural treatments like Avemar and AHCC mushroom extract that i’m still getting around to completing.
I’m just a normal guy with very little medical background. I didn’t know anything when i first found out about my mothers cancer. I stayed up late every night reading studies and anything i can find to help my mother. In the beginning everything i read looked credible and i didn’t know the difference between someones opinion like a testimonial vs real fact from a cancer study. But after a while i learned how to spot fake news or articles which used mouse studies to substantiate their claim of a cancer cure. Doing this for 5 years while my mother was battling cancer taught me a lot. The good news is anyone can do it. You don’t need a medical background to help your mother. All you need is the ability to assess if something is a waste of time. What are the odds of success based on available scientific evidence? Is the evidence credible? Is there a conflict of interest? Take everything into consideration.
Even when it comes to chemotherapy. If the doctor recommends chemotherapy then research the heck out of it. Find out the response rate, survival rate, and side effects. Just because the doctor thinks it’s the right treatment doesn’t always mean that it is. I have more than once had a doctor prescribe a chemotherapy like it was picked out of a hat. They didn’t take into account her type of cancer or previous chemotherapy taken which at that point it’s better not doing any treatment at all. I have literally heard a doctor say that he choose a specific chemotherapy because he is most comfortable with it. Not because it’s best for the patient, but because it is best for him. It amazes me that doctors like this exist.
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